Within the Kink community, there are people who have very strong outward personae. You know who others are talking about just by a few well placed adjectives and a few vulgar verbs. There are expectations around them, and it is ‘known’ who they are. I found recently that I am one of them. Several pointed
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For those of us who are into the stronger, heavier parts of BDSM, including military play, having handcuffs and leg irons in the toy bag is not just for show. We use them to restrain, we use them to intimidate, we use them to bring a scene together where a rope or leather manacle just
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Ever been in the position where you have to edit yourself while speaking? It can come across as stilted, and obviously embarrassed. You should not be embarrassed about what you like to do, but some people just really don’t understand. This changes how many people interact with others, especially friends and family who do not
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First Friday’s Location has been lost. The doors of My Buddies has closed as of 1/25/13. A new location has not yet been determined, since
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Yes. I guess you would like me to go further in this answer. As a BBW, Big Beautiful Woman, I can say, without a doubt, that size does matter in BDSM. And not all in the ways you may think. For example, a woman in a corset has more cleavage if she has a bit
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I am trying to find resources in Milwaukee so that I can begin training rigorously. How would you suggest I introduce myself to a domme that would consider taking an apprentice? Thank you This question has come into our mailbox recently. This is both a straight forward idea, and a complicated matter. When you come
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Now that winter has come, at least as far as the calendar is concerned, the winter festivals and celebrations are coming fast. Scheduling the play time and the family time can be a bit of a hassle and conflict. There are many groups that have monthly meetings, December is one of those months where it
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I have just come from two weeks on the road. It was good and bad and I would not have missed the experience. I do have three things to share with you for “compare and contrast” between a Hotel Convention and a Camping Festival. 1-Conventions are indoors. Hotels and convention sites have air conditioning, which
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I am in the final throes of packing for my trip. And I just realized that I have to pack for two completely different types of gatherings. The first is in a hotel. Convention space with air conditioned meeting rooms and bathrooms and a place to go back to that has a bed and it’s
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I am a Dominant who Dominates and I use my Dominance Dominantly in my Domain. I realize that there are people out there who truly do not know the difference between the words above. I myself had to make sure I was spelling the variations correctly. They do not mean the same thing and are
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