December was an interesting month for me. As well as the familiar enemy of seasonal depression, I was also battling professional doubt and too many personal issues to count. The professional doubt was something I wasn’t expecting, even though it is natural to experience from time to time. With the level of intimacy involved in
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Not all of us are lucky enough to share our home with a kinky housemate. Many of us have vanilla housemates, or even partners in my case. In the kink community we talk so much about limits for our play, but something that we often forget is the limits of those with whom we share
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As my health issues have been acting up of late, I’ve returned to working the telephone chat lines. This in itself is mind boggling, but one thing in particular is very noticeable and often leaves me confused: the misinterpretation that a dominant woman will turn out to be submissive. I know that it is fantasy, but I
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As this is our ‘freshman edition’ I thought I’d speak to one of my oldest friends, who is also my foot slave. In recent months he has been exploring other aspects of his kinky persona, in the form of dominating women (anyone other than me…) Two weeks ago, he finally took the plunge with his
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As my wedding day approaches, I’m starting to question how much of a place kink has in my life. Is it something that is essential to my being, or is it something that closely resembles an interest, a hobby, or a passion? Is it something I’d be willing to give up for the love of
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What started out as a way of life, an interest, a passion, has become my job. While I love it as much as when I started, I am finding that I am beginning to get a little disillusioned. I am now shocked when I come face to face with a genuine fetishist, and no longer
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Imagine you are in 85f heat. You are choosing an outfit to wear. The world is fully accepting of fetish clothing. Your options are PVC, latex, leather… or black linen trousers and a sleeveless lightweight black cotton shirt. Personally, I’d opt for the latter any day. As much as the former items look absolutely awesome,
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My first article here mentioned briefly about how I’ve had to fight to find some kind of balance between kink and vanilla in my life. I wasn’t expecting to cover that topic quite so soon, but a few issues have cropped up in my personal life to mean that, once again, I am struggling to
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One of the things I’m asked most frequently is ‘what do your parents think?’. Now, I have a few issues with this question, but they aren’t important. What is important is the fact my parents are incredibly supportive now, although they weren’t to begin with. Way back when I still lived at home with my
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