Over half a year ago, during a discussion about the post “Hiding in Plain Sight“, someone brought up the following as a reason to keep kink events hidden: There is also, I think, a quite legitimate desire to not have to deal with “tourists” – and if the BDSM/Kink community wants a idea of what
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Apparently, kinksters are delicate and fragile flowers of spun glass, easily cracked and shattered at the mere sound of a word. At least, that’s what it seems like. A thread on Fetlife a couple weeks ago highlighted this attitude once again. The individual insisted that people shouldn’t comment on–or ask about–another person’s scars at a
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It takes a lot of work to keep MadisonKink running.  We do our best to  say thank you to all the contributors–and please, take time to go to their sites and support them. There is, however, another group of people that have been supporting us in a completely different way.  A number  of popular and
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A lot of people ask “how can I be more kinky” or “what can I do to be kinky?” or “What does my kinky lover want?”  Very few people ask “how can I be more vanilla?”   Perhaps they should. In all the attempts to find answers on how to have a kinky relationship, too many
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There’s an on-going debate in kink as to weather BDSM is about sex or not.   One one side are those who say “duh! Of course it is.”  On the other side, are those who say “No, the sex is just an extra treat, it’s about power and interaction.”   The truth of  the matter is probably
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Over the past two months, I have discussed why we have a human need for fear, and how the human need for fear affects us today.  This month, I complete the series with some suggestions on how to solve the problem. Stop Being Afraid Yes, it’s actually that simple.  No, it’s not that easy. The
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One of the most common search terms that brings people to MadisonKink is “BDSM Ideas”.  And a common question within that search deals with “apartment kink”–what can you do to create bondage furniture or other BDSM installations in an apartment.  We’ve talked about this breifly before. This time, we’ll get a little more specific. The
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It’s always annoying when a writer misses a deadline.  It’s so much worse when that writer is also the Editor-in-Chief. Part 3 of “The Human Need for Fear” was supposed to be posted today.  Unfortunately, life has gotten in the way and that didn’t happen.   I don’t want to do a rush-job on the final
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Last month, I talked about the human need for fear, where it comes from and why we still have it.  This month, I’ll talk a little bit about the result.  Next month, I’ll discuss the answers. Getting Specific The human need for fear pervades every aspect of our world–ever culture, every country, every context.  MadisonKink,
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I’ve been shaving my head for around 15 years now.  For me it’s not a fetish, it’s just giving in to reality.  Nature has already removed half of my former mane, I’m just evening it out.    It wasn’t until recently that I realized that head shaving is a fetish.  I mean… I’d known it was,
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