Introduction to Rope Bondage

Jun 9th, 2012 | By | Category: Guest Authors, How To, Saturday Specials

woman boundOne of the greatest things about rope is its flexibility. It can inspire a sensual scene of intense connection or a rough and tumble scene of brutality. This flexibility makes actually writing a usable introduction difficult. I could take you through tying a square knot but that is something you can learn from many places on the internet. Take some quality time with Google and feel free to stop by my website, MonkeyFetish.com, for some step-by-step photo tutorials of a few ties.

Size Matters

The first thing you’ll need is some rope. In many ways, it doesn’t matter what you use as long as it has the feel you want. I would not suggest using a climbing rope or a super thick rope. Six millimeter (1/4″) hemp, jute, nylon, or MFP should be enough.  Cut it into lengths you are happy working with. I suggest several pieces in the 8 -10 meter range (26 – 33ft). Shorter than that and you will never be able to do anything with less than two ropes and longer than that will result in you spending more time pulling ropes through themselves than placing them on your bottom’s body.

Getting to Know Your Rope

You might think now is the time to grab a practice partner and get to work. You could do that but you’ll benefit a whole lot more from taking some time with yourself first. You’re not doing yourself or your rope partner any favors by fumbling with the ropes. You’re just going to lose confidence and comfort level and neither of you will have fun. Grab a piece of rope and your leg, a pole or a limb of a willing partner and start by practicing a few key knots. I suggest the Somerville bowline, the square knot, and the double half hitch. I sat down and practiced the Somerville bowline for hours until I could do it on muscle memory alone in about 4 seconds. The last thing you want to do when tying your partner is worry about how to tie the knots.

Now you have rope and a basic skill set, it’s time to grab our rope partner for some lab time. Don’t treat this as play time, if you’re relatively new at this, trying to introduce play at this point would be a bad idea. Frustration and flaring tempers do not make for sexy times. Be playful, be flirtatious, but save the sex play for after. Enjoy yourself and work on the same muscle memory that you just finished working on with the knots. It’s really easy to get lost worrying about whether the rope is in exactly the right place or whether it exactly matches the photo or tutorial you are working on. Mistakes will be made and you will learn quickly why things work or don’t work.  You’ll also learn that there are a lot of right ways to do some of this stuff and by making mistakes and trying different things you will learn more than you expect. Be patient with your partner and yourself and relax.

It Takes Two to Tangle

Rope bottoms, it’s important to be patient with your top. They’re going to be focused purely on the rope and not on you. They are going to get you with their fingernails, whip you with the end of the rope and you are going to get pinched. Your initial reaction may be “Ouch!  Oof! Watch it, jerk!”. If it is a momentary quick discomfort then suck it up and let them know after the fact. There’s nothing more confidence killing to your freshly minted rope top than to be constantly reminded that they’re doing it wrong. If you feel a more than momentary discomfort or pain or are truly in danger of losing an eye then, please, let your top know immediately so they can correct the situation.

Secondly, don’t help. Don’t help during the tying because you’ll just confuse your top by anticipating his or her needs wrong.  And definitely do not shrug out of the ropes at the end. There is nothing more frustrating to a rope top than having to untangle a pile of ropes at the end of a scene.

Ready to Go

Rope…check, practice time…check, rope slut…check. OK, now it is time to try that scene.

It’s tempting to just start putting rope on your bottom’s body but an amazing rope scene often has very little to do with the rope and everything to do with the attitude/energy you put into it. Take a few moments and stare into your partner’s eyes, breathe together, punch them in the face or whatever is going to give the two of you the energy you need for the scene you have planned. Now start to tie them up. Keep constant tension on the rope, make body contact, drink in the connection with your bottom. This is a dance where you can make your bottom melt with the drag of rope across the skin or a sharp tug to remind them you are there. Make them feel like you are tying them up and you are doing it for a reason.

Knot Done Yet

Orgasms have been had, rope may need to be washed, and the biggest mistake I used to make was just to untie my bottom. We’re done, what else is there to do but untie? Actually, this is often the best part of the scene. Your bottom will have very sensitive skin. Hold the rope as you untie and keep tension on it the whole time just as you did when tying. Drag the rope across their skin. Keep them in that space and watch their body tremble as you remind them with the rope that you put them there and you are taking them out again.

Enjoy the rope, enjoy your bottom, work on finding your own style and you’ll be confident with your rope skills in no time.

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