Kink and Real LifeAug 1st, 2012 | By Indigo | Category: Columns, Contributors, Indigo Marr
It’s always annoying when a writer misses a deadline. It’s so much worse when that writer is also the Editor-in-Chief.
Part 3 of “The Human Need for Fear” was supposed to be posted today. Unfortunately, life has gotten in the way and that didn’t happen. I don’t want to do a rush-job on the final chapter of the trilogy, so instead of your regularly-scheduled column, you’re getting a “Special Report”.
24/7 Really Isn’t
People often talk about being in a 24/7 power exchange. It works as a convenient short-hand, but we have to remember that we all have to deal with real life, too. We need to go to work, clean the house, pay the bills, put gas in the car, do the laundry, shop for groceries, take care of the kids, and do all those things that everyone else does. And we need to remember that doing these things doesn’t mean we aren’t kinky. It doesn’t lessen our relationships or make us any less dominant or submissive. It just means we’re people.
I often see newbies asking questions about 24/7 relationships where they feel conflicted between taking care of daily life and being kinky. The fantasies of kink often overshadow the realities, and that’s not always clear to those who are just learning.
So… If the idea of 24/7 sounds fun but impractical, just remember that even kinky people still need time to deal with real life.