For those of us who are into the stronger, heavier parts of BDSM, including military play, having handcuffs and leg irons in the toy bag is not just for show.  We use them to restrain, we use them to intimidate, we use them to bring a scene together where a rope or leather manacle just
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Yes. I guess you would like me to go further in this answer.  As a BBW, Big Beautiful Woman, I can say, without a doubt, that size does matter in BDSM.  And not all in the ways you may think. For example, a woman in a corset has more cleavage if she has a bit
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Busting onto the kink scene has had a profound and far-reaching impact on my life. Besides the obvious fun, sane, safe and consensual sex that puts a huge smile on my face, I’ve also become involved with someone who adores and supports me in all that I branch out to experience, and in all that
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My boyfriend is snoring gently next to me in our apartment. There’s dishes in the sink, the fish tank needs to be cleaned, and our bird is chirping happily in the corner. If you ignore the rope tied to the legs of our bed for speed and convenience, we look exactly like your typical young
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I wish to start my column with a disclaimer: I am not a member of the “scene”. Other than my partner, I have never, to my knowledge, met anyone who actively participates in BDSM. There is a strong social stigma that none of us can deny, and it is one I am still struggling with
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As you may, or may not know, with sex of any kind, a large amount of psychology is at work. Our personality, our inner minds, dictate what we find pleasurable. In actuality, from what I’ve experienced sex is 70% mind and 30% body. Yes, there are the basic feel good zones that 90% of us
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One of the most common search terms that brings people to MadisonKink is “BDSM Ideas”.  And a common question within that search deals with “apartment kink”–what can you do to create bondage furniture or other BDSM installations in an apartment.  We’ve talked about this breifly before. This time, we’ll get a little more specific. The
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One of the greatest things about rope is its flexibility. It can inspire a sensual scene of intense connection or a rough and tumble scene of brutality. This flexibility makes actually writing a usable introduction difficult. I could take you through tying a square knot but that is something you can learn from many places
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Starting off can be exhilarating.  There are so many new things to try that trying to pick just one is a task in and of itself.  Even attending events can be a lot to take in; everyone seems to have their own little specialty and niche, and oh the outfits!  At the vanilla-friendly events, it
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Apartment living comes with a lot of limits; no pets, generic white paint, and walls that are often “less than soundproof”. When it comes to kink, the most annoying limit can often be “no modifying the apartment”. That means no shackles on the walls, no tie-downs on the floor, and no suspension hooks in the
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