Over half a year ago, during a discussion about the post “Hiding in Plain Sight“, someone brought up the following as a reason to keep kink events hidden: There is also, I think, a quite legitimate desire to not have to deal with “tourists” – and if the BDSM/Kink community wants a idea of what
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Apparently, kinksters are delicate and fragile flowers of spun glass, easily cracked and shattered at the mere sound of a word. At least, that’s what it seems like. A thread on Fetlife a couple weeks ago highlighted this attitude once again. The individual insisted that people shouldn’t comment on–or ask about–another person’s scars at a
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One of the tricky things about living as a kinkster is how to navigate the vanilla world and its accompanying social mores. I have always been one of those nail-biting “oh, what will they think of me?” people. I wanted to be in the “popular” clique in school; I always wanted my immediate family to
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The Rule continues with addressing the issues of consultative way of steering the Community. Chapter 3 is dedicated to the ins and outs of summoning the Community for counsel and giving the household members a chance to have their say in matters that concern the welfare of all. Even the Abbot is not exempted from
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In this video we answer a question about how to begin the process of opening up your relationship.   Submit your questions here or email us at advice@madisonkink.com Jay Blevins, LMFT www.AwenTherapy.com Jasmine St. John, LMFT www.JSJTherapy.com

I’m a newbie to kink, but I’ve had many experiences even before my foray into the kink world that have helped to shape me into the person I am today. Those experiences, and some experiences I’ve had as a kinkster have also taught me valuable lessons about self-respect and safety. Before I go any further,
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[Editor's Note:  Part 1 and Part 2] The third and final situation we’ll discuss is when you have a health question related to a specific kink activity.  This would likely be a problem focused visit with your personal physician.  Understand that the appointment clerk at your physician’s office is responsible for managing the schedule and
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When I began my kinky journey, I had preconceived ideas about what “dominance” and “submission” meant. The only dominance I had experienced was the abusive, bullying kind, and relationships in which I had played an unknowingly submissive role were not defined as D/s. For a period of time during my marriage, my now ex-husband and
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Last month, we talked about meeting a new doctor and talking to them about being kinky. The second situation we’ll discuss is when you are seeking care for a specific concern.  This might be a problem focused visit with your regular physician, or a visit to the emergency room or urgent care center, or a
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December was an interesting month for me. As well as the familiar enemy of seasonal depression, I was also battling professional doubt and too many personal issues to count. The professional doubt was something I wasn’t expecting, even though it is natural to experience from time to time. With the level of intimacy involved in
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