In this video we discuss strategies for providing consequences to a submissive that has had trauma in their past. Submit your questions here or email us at advice@madisonkink.com Jay Blevins, LMFT www.AwenTherapy.com Jasmine St. John, LMFT www.JSJTherapy.com
The Rule continues with addressing the issues of consultative way of steering the Community. Chapter 3 is dedicated to the ins and outs of summoning the Community for counsel and giving the household members a chance to have their say in matters that concern the welfare of all. Even the Abbot is not exempted from
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When I began my kinky journey, I had preconceived ideas about what “dominance” and “submission” meant. The only dominance I had experienced was the abusive, bullying kind, and relationships in which I had played an unknowingly submissive role were not defined as D/s. For a period of time during my marriage, my now ex-husband and
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Chapter 2 of the Rules of Benedict outlines the qualities of the Abbot: As the one holding the place of Christ in the community, the Abbot must lead by word and example, mingling gentleness with sternness and tempering the rigor of the master with fatherly love. The RB makes it very clear that the Abbot
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December was an interesting month for me. As well as the familiar enemy of seasonal depression, I was also battling professional doubt and too many personal issues to count. The professional doubt was something I wasn’t expecting, even though it is natural to experience from time to time. With the level of intimacy involved in
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There’s an on-going debate in kink as to weather BDSM is about sex or not. One one side are those who say “duh! Of course it is.” On the other side, are those who say “No, the sex is just an extra treat, it’s about power and interaction.” The truth of the matter is probably
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As my health issues have been acting up of late, I’ve returned to working the telephone chat lines. This in itself is mind boggling, but one thing in particular is very noticeable and often leaves me confused: the misinterpretation that a dominant woman will turn out to be submissive. I know that it is fantasy, but I
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“You may not be as monogamous as you think.” It was the middle of May 2012 when those words popped up in my Gchat window, typed by the man who was soon to become my “Professor” and Dom. Although I had once considered dabbling in non-monogamy (which is really just one facet of kink) with
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As this is our ‘freshman edition’ I thought I’d speak to one of my oldest friends, who is also my foot slave. In recent months he has been exploring other aspects of his kinky persona, in the form of dominating women (anyone other than me…) Two weeks ago, he finally took the plunge with his
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It is my conviction that kink is grounded in all things real. Many things that we consider kinky today were commonplace yesterday: 1950s’ household speaks for itself, corporal punishment was practiced universally and remains a standard disciplinary practice in some contemporary cultures, I just got stuck by four needles in the doctor’s office, various BDSM
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