Winter is here and with winter comes some colder weather and lots of snow (maybe). We all know the ice cube tricks, like how a single melting ice cube placed in the naval can be both lightly painful and arousing and a good test for control, or how that same ice cube can be used
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For many people who identify as gay, lesbian, queer or so on, when they were first discovering their sexuality there was a lot of doubt.  Even though society is getting better by the year about recognizing and supporting LGBTQA individuals, no one “wants” to be gay and potentially face the prejudice and bullying that goes
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For those who enjoy their kink a little more public, while still staying soft, there are plenty of ways to go about it.  As mentioned in previous articles in this series, two major factors in kink are often the feeling of restraint, and the power dynamic.  Those can both be had without getting aggressive–though you’ll
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Limits, Boundaries, Frontiers, Event Horizons. These are my definitions.

What you are trying to do when delving into kink is challenge yourself. I have a way of looking at it that has helped some of my clients understand what they have really wanted from a session.

One of the primary aspects of BDSM is submission–and the trust that goes along with it.  For some, the submission is physical, for others it is mental, and for others it is merely situational.  Almost every aspect of BDSM has some degree of “giving up control”.  There are a lot of reasons why people enjoy
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In the vanilla world, pushing one’s limits is seen as a positive thing–especially in athletics and science. We are continually striving to “push the limits of our understanding” or “push the limits of our endurance.” We seek to go faster, longer, further, higher. A limit is something to be overcome, something that is holding us back; something that is… limiting us. Step into the world of kink, however…

One of the weirdest emotions I encountered when entering in the scene was doubt; doubt that I was really kinky, that I had any business being in this community, that I wasn’t some bystander trying to be “cool and hip” by being open-minded to alternative expression.    I had certainly had experiences that clued me in
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There are some people that their play is pretty much always intense, harsh, and ending with some sort of bruising, crying, and/or bloodshed. Hence, when the concept of pushing their sexual relationship boundaries came up, the most limit-pushing act of one couple was vanilla-missionary-soft-lovemaking. The couple was actually really nervous about if they would be able to enjoy this version of sexual expression after so many years of increased pain thresholds.

There is a rather taboo subject that exists even among the most edge-worthy of kink players. It upsets people, it could make you a social pariah, and the standard answer is to NOT do it.  Yep, you probably guessed it from the title but just in case you are not sure, let me spell it
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