Within the Kink community, there are people who have very strong outward personae. You know who others are talking about just by a few well placed adjectives and a few vulgar verbs. There are expectations around them, and it is ‘known’ who they are. I found recently that I am one of them. Several pointed
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For those of us who are into the stronger, heavier parts of BDSM, including military play, having handcuffs and leg irons in the toy bag is not just for show.  We use them to restrain, we use them to intimidate, we use them to bring a scene together where a rope or leather manacle just
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Over half a year ago, during a discussion about the post “Hiding in Plain Sight“, someone brought up the following as a reason to keep kink events hidden: There is also, I think, a quite legitimate desire to not have to deal with “tourists” – and if the BDSM/Kink community wants a idea of what
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In this video we answer a question about how to help a partner understand why you enjoy being submissive beyond sex.     Submit your questions here or email us at advice@madisonkink.com Jay Blevins, LMFT www.AwenTherapy.com Jasmine St. John, LMFT www.JSJTherapy.com

Ever been in the position where you have to edit yourself while speaking? It can come across as stilted, and obviously embarrassed. You should not be embarrassed about what you like to do, but some people just really don’t understand.  This changes how many people interact with others, especially friends and family who do not
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Welcome to our latest advice video for MadisonKink.com. Newbie wrote to ask, “How do I find a professional Domme?” Anonymous wrote to ask, “How do you bring up the topic of BDSM when you are in a new relationship?” Here is our reply – Submit your questions here or email us at advice@madisonkink.com Jasmine St. John, LMFT www.JSJTherapy.com Jay
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First Friday’s Location has been lost.  The doors of My Buddies has closed as of 1/25/13.  A new location has not yet been determined, since
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Yes. I guess you would like me to go further in this answer.  As a BBW, Big Beautiful Woman, I can say, without a doubt, that size does matter in BDSM.  And not all in the ways you may think. For example, a woman in a corset has more cleavage if she has a bit
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Jasmine St John is a name that is pretty widely known in the Madison Kink community. While many people know Jasmine from her days participating in community events, today she is more well known for her work as a Systems Therapist that works primarily with the LGBTQIA and Kink community.  But what many people don’t
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I am trying to find resources in Milwaukee so that I can begin training rigorously.  How would you suggest I introduce myself to a domme that would consider taking an apprentice?  Thank you This question has come into our mailbox recently.  This is both a straight forward idea, and a complicated matter. When you come
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