Eighteen months ago, some friendly conversations, heated debates, strongly-held advice–both solicited and not–mixed with boredom and the catalyst of rec wine, and MadisonKink was born.but who was the man behind the idea? He was one of the stranger members of the Madison kink community known online as Indigo Marr. Indigo is strange not because of
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I’m still in the freshman orientation theme, and this is something I read all over Fetlife:  various topics like “Madison is so cliquey” and “Why won’t anyone invite me to parties?” Often times these posts are written by a person who has never ventured out to meet real live people at a real live munch
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Finding a community of like minded people is so very refreshing! Finally, there are people who also tied up their barbies, and GI-Joe was always the big bad Dom/Rapist/Abductor. You can talk to people about kink! But wait…..where to start? I met my first kinky boyfriend when I was in my 20′s…some 20 odd years
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My Fiance and I have been together for 8 years now, we are to get married next year.  We have a great relationship together as friends and a couple.  We have always dabbled in the light bondage but both of us had some reservations on how far to take it, or even what we really
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My Buddies is in a location on the East side of Madison that has spawned and killed many restaurants.  This latest iteration of the Sports Bar has promise. There are several areas, from the game area with pool and foos-ball to the large dining area that all have a good seat for the wall of
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If you haven’t been to a First Friday before, you’re missing out on Madison’s premier social gathering for kinksters.  Held on the (of course) first
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Hello, I’m interested in getting involved in the fetish scene in Madison, and would like some general tips/guidelines that I should be aware of before heading forward. I’m planning on attending a First Friday when my work schedule allows. I’m also fairly young compared to others in the scene (I’m 19), and being new to
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When transportation is an issue, getting out and around the Madison scene can seem like a nightmare. For the first few months since getting into Kink, my biggest struggle wasn’t necessarily finding something to wear or deciding what play I wanted to try that night, but simply how I was going to get there and back again. With no car, or sometimes with no money just to pay for gas, suddenly everyone’s encouragement that I would find friends if I just attend events seemed a little optimistic when I couldn’t even get to them. I was lucky, being able to borrow my parents’ van to make it out to my first few First Fridays, but if you’re short that luxury there are a few options available.

As you enter into the community or continue to get deeper and deeper into it, you are going to form relationships. These can be the most basic–acquaintances you met at First Friday and occasionally say hi to–or they can be that ever quested after life long relationship. But you may also notice that sometimes you are going to get resistance when these relationships form, either from the people around you or even from yourself.

When I first got approached about writing a column about being new to kink, I was excited and figured it would be a walk in the park. After all, my lack of expertise was my strength in this case, and I had been exposed to so much in my two month initiation that I had tons I wanted to write about. I had met many interesting people, had both good experiences and bad, and had a lot of advice to give those also embarking on this journey. This will be fantastic, I thought, a real chance to show what I went through and maybe help someone else also entering into the experience.