Busting onto the kink scene has had a profound and far-reaching impact on my life. Besides the obvious fun, sane, safe and consensual sex that puts a huge smile on my face, I’ve also become involved with someone who adores and supports me in all that I branch out to experience, and in all that
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I’ve been curious-before shades came out! But, is that what it can be like? To just relax and not feel like a slut because you ask for things that aren’t “conventional?” Or, is it a game…..unsatisfying because your scared of what others think of you? Jay: That’s an interesting question. I’m willing to bet that
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I’m pleased to announce that beginning today there will be a change to this column and that of Alt Sex Therapist. We will be answering questions submitted by you, the readers of MadisonKink.com. We will be happy to answer questions about just about anything including BDSM & Kink, Power Dynamics, Relationship Issues, Personal Growth issues…you
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My view of the word “punishment” has changed significantly through my journey into kink. The everyday, vanilla-esque definition is a negative reenforcement for negative behavior. Really, the entire thing is negative for everyone involved. The punisher is doing it because something was done that was bad, while the recipient is having a negative experience as
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I’m still in the freshman orientation theme, and this is something I read all over Fetlife: various topics like “Madison is so cliquey” and “Why won’t anyone invite me to parties?” Often times these posts are written by a person who has never ventured out to meet real live people at a real live munch
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Being new to kink, I thought that, perhaps, the best place to learn was from real people in real time. So with that being said I did my research and actively sought out groups in Madison that would suit my extensive need for education. Luckily with todays technology, and Google, a simple keyword search was
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Finding a community of like minded people is so very refreshing! Finally, there are people who also tied up their barbies, and GI-Joe was always the big bad Dom/Rapist/Abductor. You can talk to people about kink! But wait…..where to start? I met my first kinky boyfriend when I was in my 20′s…some 20 odd years
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“You may not be as monogamous as you think.” It was the middle of May 2012 when those words popped up in my Gchat window, typed by the man who was soon to become my “Professor” and Dom. Although I had once considered dabbling in non-monogamy (which is really just one facet of kink) with
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Welcome to Freshman Orientation Month! I want to take this opportunity to talk about something that has been at the forefront of a lot of my therapeutic work recently…expectations. We all have them. Expectations can be a real trouble spot for newcomers. Hopefully you’ll get some ideas that may help you avoid some of them!
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I wish to start my column with a disclaimer: I am not a member of the “scene”. Other than my partner, I have never, to my knowledge, met anyone who actively participates in BDSM. There is a strong social stigma that none of us can deny, and it is one I am still struggling with
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