As this is our ‘freshman edition’ I thought I’d speak to one of my oldest friends, who is also my foot slave. In recent months he has been exploring other aspects of his kinky persona, in the form of dominating women (anyone other than me…) Two weeks ago, he finally took the plunge with his
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There is a notion that aftercare is often about sweet reconnection. This is true and there are other methods as well. It may seem counter intuitive but some people want to be angry and/or left alone after an intense scene. This isn’t something that is negative, it is processing through the emotions of what was experienced and
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Fifty Shades of Grey I promised I’d write about the last half of Fifty Shades of Grey by E. L. James.  Actually, I thought about not writing about it.  If you read my post last month you know I was not too excited by the first half of the book.  Beyond being poorly written it
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If you look at the fetish models and the bondage sites, BDSM looks expensive. All that leather, all that stainless steel, all that furniture… How can anyone afford to be kinky? The answer is a lot closer than you think–as close as your local hardware store or garage sale.

One of the weirdest emotions I encountered when entering in the scene was doubt; doubt that I was really kinky, that I had any business being in this community, that I wasn’t some bystander trying to be “cool and hip” by being open-minded to alternative expression.    I had certainly had experiences that clued me in
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When people ask about body piercers in Madison, one name keeps coming up: Karcus. When kinksters ask what events are must-attend, one name keeps coming up: Sabbat de Sade. Not surprisingly, one is the brain-child of the other. At first glance, Karcus may seem intimidating and stand-offish. Tall and trim, with a shock of black
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Everyone plays differently.  Every city and region plays differently.  Your bag should reflect the play you want to do, but it does not have to be expensive to fill that bag. There are times when I laugh at people when they tell me how much they spend on their fetish gear.  Don’t get me wrong. 
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Many people have had the experience of flogging for hours at a kink event or play party, only to wake the next morning to a heavy ache and an arm which feels like it weighs about four tons. Any physical activity falls into the category of “perishable skills”, meaning if you don’t regularly exercise the
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So… We’ve conducted the largest test we (currently) can on the Flying Flogger myth. Unexpectedly, the hardest part of this test has been finding an actual 7-lb flogger–or anything even close to it. The best we could come up with was taping 2 floggers together to come up with a combined weight of 3-lbs 7½oz–not
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We did our first “real” test of the Flying Flogger yesterday. With an 18-oz flogger and 16 lbs of sand, there was absolutely no movement. The 10-lb steel weight moved, but didn’t get airborne; it spun and fell. Tomorrow, we’ll be working on the full-out test. We’ll have 100-lbs of weight, a 7-lb flogger (or
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