Apparently, kinksters are delicate and fragile flowers of spun glass, easily cracked and shattered at the mere sound of a word. At least, that’s what it seems like. A thread on Fetlife a couple weeks ago highlighted this attitude once again. The individual insisted that people shouldn’t comment on–or ask about–another person’s scars at a
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Over the past two months, I have discussed why we have a human need for fear, and how the human need for fear affects us today. This month, I complete the series with some suggestions on how to solve the problem. Stop Being Afraid Yes, it’s actually that simple. No, it’s not that easy. The
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Last month, I talked about the human need for fear, where it comes from and why we still have it. This month, I’ll talk a little bit about the result. Next month, I’ll discuss the answers. Getting Specific The human need for fear pervades every aspect of our world–ever culture, every country, every context. MadisonKink,
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When MadisonKink was created, one of its main goals was to promote kink events in the Madison area openly and in a favorable light. As we celebrate our first anniversary, you might notice that the listings for groups and events aren’t as full as you might expect. A great deal of this is because the
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The internet is an odd thing. It is both ephemera and very permanent. The news or meme of the day will flit by and be lost in the chaos to be replaced with something just as vapid. Scandal and anything that has been posted will hang on, even if you think you have taken profiles,
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In the vanilla world, pushing one’s limits is seen as a positive thing–especially in athletics and science. We are continually striving to “push the limits of our understanding” or “push the limits of our endurance.” We seek to go faster, longer, further, higher. A limit is something to be overcome, something that is holding us back; something that is… limiting us. Step into the world of kink, however…
This is what kink is all about, right? Bondage and bruises and ropes and crops; pain sluts and leather families; munches and scenes and dungeons and crosses; and, of course, enough gear to fill a spare room.
Actually. No.
If you’re going to eat out only one night next month, make it October 6th, and choose your restaurant from this list [PDF]. DAIS–the Domestic
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The question of “being out” comes up quite frequently–be it in regards to being kinky, poly, queer, or a Twighlight fan. People, however, seem to have a strange sense of what it means to be “out”. There’s a lot of discussion about what it means to be “out” as a kinkster–much of it contradictory. There’s
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The old joke goes: Kinky is using a feather, perverted is using the whole chicken.
Trying to define “kink” can be difficult, because it’s wrapped up in so many personal, religious, and social taboos. One of the goals of MadisonKink is to remove those barriers and reveal kink as the very common activity that it actually is.
