The fourth annual Walk A Mile Madison is happening on Saturday, May 4th.  Walk a Mile Madison is part of the international Walk a Mile in
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To look at our family, we’d look just like any other blended family. My partner has two kids, ages 3 and 5, and I have two kids, ages 12 and 17. My kids live with us full time, while his are over on the weekends. The kids love playing with each other, and everyone gets
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The Rule continues with addressing the issues of consultative way of steering the Community. Chapter 3 is dedicated to the ins and outs of summoning the Community for counsel and giving the household members a chance to have their say in matters that concern the welfare of all. Even the Abbot is not exempted from
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December was an interesting month for me. As well as the familiar enemy of seasonal depression, I was also battling professional doubt and too many personal issues to count. The professional doubt was something I wasn’t expecting, even though it is natural to experience from time to time. With the level of intimacy involved in
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The physician-patient relationship is not unlike any other relationship.  It works best when communication is open and when expectations are both clear and realistic.  So before worrying about how to tell your physician you’re kinky, you might start by considering why you want to share that information and what you expect him or her to
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My view of the word “punishment” has changed significantly through my journey into kink. The everyday, vanilla-esque definition is a negative reenforcement for negative behavior. Really, the entire thing is negative for everyone involved. The punisher is doing it because something was done that was bad, while the recipient is having a negative experience as
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Not all of us are lucky enough to share our home with a kinky housemate. Many of us have vanilla housemates, or even partners in my case. In the kink community we talk so much about limits for our play, but something that we often forget is the limits of those with whom we share
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The BDSM community has somewhat of a reputation, deservedly or otherwise, for wanting to rely on free advice rather than pay for professional advice. If we are discussing what’s the best homemade glop to remove bugs from your windshield, that’s ok and there is not much downside risk to running it through Google or the
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Welcome to Freshman Orientation Month! I want to take this opportunity to talk about something that has been at the forefront of a lot of my therapeutic work recently…expectations.  We all have them.  Expectations can be a real trouble spot for newcomers.  Hopefully you’ll get some ideas that may help you avoid some of them!
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As this is our ‘freshman edition’ I thought I’d speak to one of my oldest friends, who is also my foot slave. In recent months he has been exploring other aspects of his kinky persona, in the form of dominating women (anyone other than me…) Two weeks ago, he finally took the plunge with his
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