I’m a newbie to kink, but I’ve had many experiences even before my foray into the kink world that have helped to shape me into the person I am today. Those experiences, and some experiences I’ve had as a kinkster have also taught me valuable lessons about self-respect and safety. Before I go any further,
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Welcome to our latest advice video for MadisonKink.com. Newbie wrote to ask, “Hi, we are in our late 50′s. Will there be others in our age group?” Anonymous wrote to ask, “Does kink play always involve sex?” Here is our reply –     Submit your questions here or email us at advice@madisonkink.com Jay Blevins,
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Winter is here and with winter comes some colder weather and lots of snow (maybe). We all know the ice cube tricks, like how a single melting ice cube placed in the naval can be both lightly painful and arousing and a good test for control, or how that same ice cube can be used
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There’s an on-going debate in kink as to weather BDSM is about sex or not.   One one side are those who say “duh! Of course it is.”  On the other side, are those who say “No, the sex is just an extra treat, it’s about power and interaction.”   The truth of  the matter is probably
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Strap-ons.  Yup, strap-ons.  You’ve been thinking of them.  You’ve been wearing them out to kink parties.  You may even have gotten brave and joined the thousands and thousands of people out there using this kinky, but almost vanilla-by-popularity, sex toy.  Maybe you are having it used on you.  Strap-ons have been around for ages, and
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Sex happens. You know it, I know it, your mom and dad knew it and that’s why you’re even here. Love it, like it, or hate it, sex is that all encompassing force that consumes our thoughts and- sometimes- even our lives. So when a play scene boils over into sex, whether planned or purely spur of the moment, it can be a little difficult to think about the potential consequences of your good time. It’s like stepping up to the bar again when you’re already drunk; there’s that little voice in your head trying to tell you something, but for your life you can’t remember what. The hope is, when you’re drunk off pheromones and getting ready to dive into the big S-E-X, that when you wake up in the morning it will be with the knowledge you’re physically safe. But sometimes that is not always the case.

The idea of opening up a relationship can be very exciting.  But it can also be scary and anxiety provoking.  As a therapist I’m happiest if you feel a little of both.  Recognizing the new opportunities for fun and happiness while understanding the potential risks and challenges it can bring to yourself and/or your current
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Reality check: as of the end of June, 2011, gay marriage is legal in 5 states and Washington, D.C., with New York being the newest addition to the list. Seven countries worldwide recognize gay marriage, with the Netherlands having been the first to do so, and Spain being the only one to group same-sex and
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I only ever want to say this once…People of the world, stop offering sex! Those who know me can pick their jaws off the floor, and for those who don’t I promise to make the message clear. I wanted to use this month’s article as opportunity for a quick lesson in courtesy, because as I
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