Chapter 4 of the Rule entitled Tools for Good Works showers the reader with Scripture quotes found in the Gospels and Pauline epistles. Those quotes intercepted with Benedict’s own insights fall into the following general categories: Scriptural Commandments beginning with the Greatest which sum up the Law and the Prophets: Love God (whoever you conceive
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The Rule continues with addressing the issues of consultative way of steering the Community. Chapter 3 is dedicated to the ins and outs of summoning the Community for counsel and giving the household members a chance to have their say in matters that concern the welfare of all. Even the Abbot is not exempted from
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In this video we answer a question about how to help a partner understand why you enjoy being submissive beyond sex. Submit your questions here or email us at advice@madisonkink.com Jay Blevins, LMFT www.AwenTherapy.com Jasmine St. John, LMFT www.JSJTherapy.com
When I began my kinky journey, I had preconceived ideas about what “dominance” and “submission” meant. The only dominance I had experienced was the abusive, bullying kind, and relationships in which I had played an unknowingly submissive role were not defined as D/s. For a period of time during my marriage, my now ex-husband and
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My view of the word “punishment” has changed significantly through my journey into kink. The everyday, vanilla-esque definition is a negative reenforcement for negative behavior. Really, the entire thing is negative for everyone involved. The punisher is doing it because something was done that was bad, while the recipient is having a negative experience as
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As this is our ‘freshman edition’ I thought I’d speak to one of my oldest friends, who is also my foot slave. In recent months he has been exploring other aspects of his kinky persona, in the form of dominating women (anyone other than me…) Two weeks ago, he finally took the plunge with his
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It is my conviction that kink is grounded in all things real. Many things that we consider kinky today were commonplace yesterday: 1950s’ household speaks for itself, corporal punishment was practiced universally and remains a standard disciplinary practice in some contemporary cultures, I just got stuck by four needles in the doctor’s office, various BDSM
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There is a notion that aftercare is often about sweet reconnection. This is true and there are other methods as well. It may seem counter intuitive but some people want to be angry and/or left alone after an intense scene. This isn’t something that is negative, it is processing through the emotions of what was experienced and
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For many people who identify as gay, lesbian, queer or so on, when they were first discovering their sexuality there was a lot of doubt. Even though society is getting better by the year about recognizing and supporting LGBTQA individuals, no one “wants” to be gay and potentially face the prejudice and bullying that goes
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By now you have probably heard of the book Fifty Shades of Grey. You know that BDSM romance novel a.k.a Twilight fan fiction a.k.a mommy porn? I figured you were probably aware of it, even if you haven’t read it yet. It has been on covers of magazines, TV shows, and of course all over the internet.
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