Use Your WordsAug 17th, 2012 | By Miss R | Category: Advice, Contributors, MissR
I am a Dominant who Dominates and I use my Dominance Dominantly in my Domain.
I realize that there are people out there who truly do not know the difference between the words above. I myself had to make sure I was spelling the variations correctly. They do not mean the same thing and are not interchangeable.
I recently made my way through several messages from potential clients. Only one of the three used the above words appropriately. The other two were given polite messages asking if they understood how the message they sent me possibly did not mean what they meant. One of the two apologized and I have continued a virtual conversation with them. The other…
The way you contact a Dominant, whether Professional or Hobbyist, will let them know much more than you may realize. If you are corrected, learn from it, do not take offense, unless it is done inappropriately. Do not communicate back that the Dominant is stupid, elitist or being mean and expect the person to send you any other messages. You may have just been put on the Black List.
It also is the same if you are contacting a submissive. They are people and will most likely not react positively if you start out your message with demeaning language, ordering them to do things and expecting them to do anything but share the message while laughing with their friends.
A person in the kink community will get better reaction if they approach the potential playmate as a person, not as a role.
Keep this in mind and I might let you into my Domain if you ask nicely.
Miss R from the Leathermines